New Beginnings and Lessons

In life, we are given many chances to decide what we want and to work for it. We are also given opportunities to learn what we don't want. As I said to a friend recently, and I don't take credit for this line, "Everything and everyone is a blessing or a lesson." The things that happen to us that are good are obviously ones that are noted as positive ones, but sometimes we lack actually being able to see what the negative ones mean. They're lessons! The lesson might not come right away, because you might experience some pain from whatever occurred, but in the end you'll realize you've learned and grown because of it. Maybe you're not quite ready to thank life for throwing you those curve balls, but hopefully at some point you will be, because they really actually become blessings in a way.

Actually, that last sentence aka my latest revelation just blew my mind. Even people or things that you consider lessons (negative to start, but finding the gold in situations) eventually are blessings, because of the way they turn you into the person you are. You can always choose (after a decent amount of healing time) how things will affect you. Either you can become bitter and hold grudges, or you can learn from things and let them take you down a new, more positive road.

I'm ready for the ride that is life, with no more allowances for negative things and people in my life. And if they do slip in? Well, I'm ready for those lessons/blessings, too.

The Stranger and The Transition

This is something that I wrote about the transition which exists between any two people who enter a relationship and end it, for whatever reasons, at whatever time. It's an odd phenomena and my friend and I had a conversation about it which gave me some insight and an ability to put the phenomena in actual words.

From strangers to more to strangers again~~

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Two people who start out as nothing

Basically strangers

You could practically see each other on the street

And have only a flickering, or a glimpse of recognition

No memories or associations

Nothing to tie one to the other

Nothing to smile about or think about as you fall asleep

Then you become friends; someone to talk to and converse

Chatting, sharing thoughts and ideas

Laughing platonically

And so quickly you become more

The transition happens so fast

Sometimes the line blurs and you hardly notice

A happy haze

Suddenly you're lovers

Two people on the same wavelength

The most beautiful thing

At the right time or at the wrong time

Intimacies beyond just "close"

And then suddenly or maybe not so sudden

You're strangers again

But this time it's different than before

No longer can one say "You’re unrecognizable"

Because your breath may hitch in your throat

At the sight of their face

Someone who changed you

Or just impacted you

In one way or a thousand

Things are significant now

Memories loom in the air

And now you're familiar strangers

No longer able to pass them by like they don't exist